While working with athletes, one of the many (if not the highest) issues I have to work on is an athlete’s relationship with their family for the benefit of their Taekwondo Training and Competition Success.
In my last article – Taekwondo Success Is Determined By The People You Associate With – I talked about how the people you hang around with will determine how well you do.
Time and time again, I’ve seen how one little thing from a family member can either make or break someone, especially in the early part of their Taekwondo career.
I came across one very interesting fact about successful people a few years ago.
A study was done to find out what were the common elements that all successful people had. They looked to see if it was where people come from – if they had money or not. They quickly found that it wasn’t that, as people had come from very rich families and made money – as well as lost it. People had come from middle class families and had done the same, as well as people from not so good economic backgrounds. So that wasn’t the thing that made people successful.
They then looked at their education. While people with a higher education did earn more on average, there was people of multi millionaires who had made their money despite very little or no formal education at all. So that wasn’t it!
After looking at so many things, they found one single thing that they all had in common – no matter what their education or money background. That single thing that they all had in common was that they had a parent – or parental figure – who believed in them, supported them and had a big influence in their life.
This is true in so many people that I know.
A prime example of this is a friend of mine Steven Lopez. His father would get him out of bed at 5.30 in the morning for training. He took him everywhere to compete and train. He did everything for him – no matter what. This flowed over into Mark and Diana and are Taekwondo’s top family in the World, with their brother Jean as their coach.
You don’t necessarily have to have a “parent” to be that figure for you to be successful. Having a Parental Figure in your life works just as well.
Anyone can be a Parental Figure – a grandparent, a coach, a teacher, an aunt or uncle – anyone. It’s the support that they give you that is vital to your success.
So, if you have someone in your life like that, consider yourself more than lucky. What I suggest you do, if you haven’t done it lately is to go to that person and thank them for being in your life and doing what they’ve done for you. They may not know how much you appreciate what they’ve done for you. Thanking them will go a long way for them, and by doing so, you’re almost guaranteeing that they’ll continue to do more!
If you’re a parent with a child in Taekwondo and you want them to be successful, then support them in their goals. Don’t do everything for them, as this will not allow them to grow, but if they have a dream to be a World Champion support them in what they want to do. If they lose track of that vision then remind them. If it is truly what they want, then they’ll quickly get back on track and be back training in no time.